I'm a 30 year old male and my best friend got married last week. I just bought a house and my wife is expecting out son in November, so I let him know I was limited in what I could contribute financially, but did tell him I would try my best. So, I wend to the bachelor party in Maine, I rented the tux, and paid for mine and my wife's dinner at the rehearsal dinner. I also had a gift of $300 that I was going to give them, but we will get to why I didn't give it to them.

His (now wife, then fiance) texted me multiple times a day with updates--fine. I didn't always respond and it got to the point where if I didn't repsond at LEAST once a day, I'd get a call from my buddy. (I have a full time job and am redoing some rooms in my house, so I'm busy.) She texted me for the following reasons:

• My wife was NOT allowed to talk about our pregnancy, at all. She didn't want anyone to focus on that more than her, the bride.

• She was NOT going to order special food for my wife (no one asked her to, my wife was fine with whatever she was going to be served.)

• I was not helping the groom enough, he had to help her with favors, seating charts and programs, so I had to help him with those things, according to her. She also said to get ready to help with thank you notes after the wedding.

• She said if I was a true best man, I would offer to pay for the bar bill. I don't even know what that means.

• She had to read a approve my speech before the rehearsal dinner and wanted to be include as much, as my buddy. She told me to make up things if I had to. I was also NOT allowed to include anyone but the two of them and no inside jokes or stories about my buddy that didn't include her.

• Her last text said to tell my wife to keep it together and not make a pregnancy scene during the wedding. Also, she wanted her to choose a dress that downplayed her pregnancy as much as possible.

I was just so aggravated, I spoke to my friend to see if he could reason with her. He told me to just play ball on this one, it's her day and to cut him a break, because he'd be dealing with her nonsense for the rest of his life. I was annoyed but calmed down.

The day of, all the bride and my buddy do is scold me, berate me and bark orders. I head down to the bar for the a drink...the bride's mother is there and warns me not to get drunk because I've ruined her daughter's day enough. Final straw.

I didn't give them the card with the cash and in the speech, I used my friend's exact wording about having to deal with her nonsense for the rest of his life. I wished them the best and told him I'd always be there for him, especially during the divorce. AITA?

I was raised by a hardcore racist, “hardcore” as in would and probably still is harassing non white people on the daily assaulting them and being a all around pos, now I don’t associate myself with them anymore.

I’ve been working on myself for about 3 years now and it’s been going great I’m at a point where the only problems I have are subconsciously, I’ll be playing frustrated or mad at something like a game and it will just slip out I don’t go out of my way to say it but it happens, I always get mad at myself and get even more frustrated when this happens and I always get so pissed off on how far I’ve come and it just happens, And I’m just wondering what am I doing wrong for me to still be doing this? What can I do to better myself further? Thanks