So, most of us here are minors, under the age of 18. And there’s an important thing that needs to be said so please listen, I know you will most likely ignore this or won’t care because I’m only 13 but just read this.

So, I get it, probably all of us have horny rides and stuff, I get it. But please never, ever, send nudes to anyone, I don’t care if they are attractive, how close you are to them, I do not care. Just don’t send nudes to anyone until you’re at least 18. Even if you are both minors, it counts as child porn. Which is illegal, if you want to see some nudes, just go on pornhub or any other porn site, not other teenagers, please.

It’s just common sense, sending nudes to another person as a minor, is illegal, it’s like sending child porn. Just wait until you are at least 18. I know most of you won’t listen but please. Just don’t send nudes.

I am not good at words but I’m just saying that you should wait until you are at least 18 to send nudes, you and the person you are sending it to.

Thank you for listening.

Throwaway cause I'm still the only one that knows

Background: My brother has been staying with us since lockdown, after his University closed. He couldn't stay with our parents cause they just sold the house and moved to a 1 bedroom apartment and our sister lives in a different part of the country. He was the "oops" baby so I hope that explains the age gap. My wife and I have a 5 bedroom home but currently don't have children yet (we decided to adopt 2 kids in our 40s) so we let him stay here.

My brother has always been... Different. He's a bit of a loner and doesn't have a lot of friends outside of his online group. He's a shy geeky kid but he's otherwise alright (or so I thought) when you get to know him.

So here's what happened

The wifi doesn't quite reach my brother's room so he usually does his school work and other stuff in the dining room. A few nights ago, I was walking to the fridge after waking up in the middle of the night (wife and I sleep early) and saw my brother working on something out and as I got closer, I saw a very compromising picture of my wife (cleavage shot as she was gardening). He noticed me and quickly closed the window like he was watching porn. I was too shell shocked to say anything at that time and he just smiled awkwardly and ran to his room with the laptop.

When I realized that something was up, I knew I had to find out. The next day, I asked my brother to pick up some groceries and some lunch for us and while he was away, I went to his room (something I've never done since he moved) and, well, it wasn't pretty. I saw a couple of my wife's bras and some of her panties which I can only assume he used to pleasure himself. I took his laptop and fuck it, decided to snoop. I knew his password cause I borrowed his Crunchyroll account to watch this anime my friend recommended (I don't usually watch anime).

There I saw some of the most sickening entries I've read. There were pictures of my wife in a towel, her working out, her in compromising positions, etc. All taken without her consent by the looks of it. The fucker even logs every time he touches himself to the image of my wife. The creepiest part? He sometimes listens in on us when we have sex. My wife can be a bit loud but we didn't think it would be a problem since his bedroom was in a different part of the house (guest bedroom).

I left the room feeling like I needed a shower. It was absolutely disgusting.

Now I don't know what to do. I find myself fighting the urge to pummel him into next week every time I see him. I haven't told my wife yet cause I'm 100% sure she will feel violated and disgusted so I want to find the best solution first before doing so. I so desperately want to kick him out but I he has nowhere else to go. Even if I do, what should I tell my parents? The truth? This will most likely break the family apart. I do plan on telling my wife soon but if I do, I can almost guarantee she would want nothing to do with him and would never want to visit the family if he's around.

I'm so fucking lost right now. Any advice will help. Still fighting the urge to beat my brother to a bloody pulp.

Edit: if you're wondering, I did take pictures as proof.

let me start by saying that i have never ever wanted children. i have never wanted to give birth. i have never had even the slightest, teeny bit urge to conceive. ever.

i am 21 years old and i am so sick of everyone telling me,”oh you’re going to change your mind about it one day”. i’m not. i am not meant to be a mother, i can barely care for myself. i have really bad mental health, i always have and i think that i am probably not fit for bearing children. i’m extremely conceited as well and i would definitely have resentment towards my children for changing my body. if my mental heath would ever be to a point to where i think i could handle having a child, i would adopt. simple as that. i think it would be worth the time, money, and hassle to save a child from the foster care system.

i was having a conversation with my manager (who is by far the worst parent i’ve ever seen, and i’ll explain why) the other day about how i didn’t think it was fair that if i were married, my husband would have to sign off on the procedure. why the fuck do i need a man to tell me,”it’s okay honey, i give you permission to do this thing that only effects you and your body”???? she goes on a rant telling me about how i’ll never understand because i’m so young and i couldn’t see myself with children at the moment and how she was and still is the same way. let me tell y’all- this woman is constantly talking about how she wishes she had abortions for both of her kids. i’ve seen her come in early because she had to leave home because she was thinking of shooting her children. i’ve watched her scream and yell at her children for acting like children, things like ‘using a too high pitched voice’ or ‘being too excited’. i refuse to be that mom or to put ANY child in a position where i despite them for simply existing, and i know i would. if i were to be a mother, i would want to be the best one possible and i just don’t have the patience or capacity for that.

i am just so sick of everyone telling me what i can and can’t do with my body. i want to be the one in control of it. i don’t want to have to be 24 with at least 2 kids for a doctor to give me the okay. i don’t want to have to have a husband sign a paper saying that it’s okay. i can understand an age limit, but i don’t think the number of children you have or your partner should have anything to do with it.

i want to be able to make my decision on my own. i want it to be my decision.

EDIT: ok i’m getting a lot of really, really nasty comments and messages over this post. i know in title i said hysterectomy, but this applies to all reproductive halting procedures. this is not a hysterectomy-only post. i cant believe i have to say this, but i do not owe any of you an explanation or my detailed medical history. if you’re just going to tell me that i’m going to change my mind about children or start acting like some entitled reddit doctor, i will just block you. i am very close to just deleting this post and it’s sad that i don’t feel comfortable on here anymore. thank you to those who are being supportive- i love and appreciate you.