My mom has been snooping around my phone and a lot of my social media platforms trying to see what I say to my friends and what I’m looking up. This has been going on for months now. I’ve had to leave group chats and flat-our stop talking to friends just to make sure they don’t send me messages that could get me in deep trouble. There are just some friends that I absolutely cannot loose contact with, so I came up with an idea to just completely wipe every text message and instagram DM I get from friends before bed every night. It’s not because of the things I send, but because they have a sense of humor moms don’t understand. Anyways, I woke up this morning expecting my phone to be looked over and sure enough, I could tell it was before she brought it up. She told me that she knew I was deleting my messages and that the more clean someone or something is, they more suspicious they are. I decided that the right thing to do was to come clean on why I delete all of my messages. I go on to say that my friends send things that I don’t want her seeing. I also see a chance to try and express my opinion on how she snoops around my phone. I tell her that I would really like some privacy when it comes to my messages and the only way to get that is to delete them every night. This is where she looked me dead in the eye and said “There is no privacy in my house” she said this several times, each drilling away at my brain.

I feel so useless in my own house, not being able to discuss these types of things with my own mom. Thanks to the 3 people sorting by new who let me vent, and please feel free to leave advice in the comments.

The title says it all. There are (were) many subreddits designed purely to shame and put women down and criticize them. I hardly ever see any subreddits dedicated solely to bringing men down. On "unpopular opinion " subreddit I tried posting a post with the title of "reddit is very anti-women" and the post never got posted. I tried to reformat the title 3 times amd everytime it wouldn't post or I would get a message "your post is very uNpoPulAR " and that was the reason why it wouldn't even get posted. It's so frustrating seeing all the hate towards women, it makes me feel we haven't moved on at all amd just shows that misogyny has become more covert. The closest subreddit I have come across towards "hating " men was FDS and even then they weren't no where near as bad as subreddits that basically try to normalize pedophilia or like "Standardcels"or "MGTOW". I hate how if a womam posts something with even a little of her body in the pic men coming swarming like flies accusing her of "DoiNG it ONly For AteTtNtiOn". Why can't we just be left in peace? I want to post pics of my weight loss progress so bad, but im scared I'll get swarmed. With all this, it's hard to not hate on men and generalize them all. I'm trying not to because I wouldnt want to become angry and bitter like incels but it's so hard not to generalize when all these things are almost a givem for being a woman.