I am currently in a three-year relationship with a 24-year-old woman named Cathy. I'll spare you all the details about her personality, but I love her dearly. I fully intend to marry her when the time is right for both of us.
On our first date, Cathy warned me that she had PTSD from past trauma. Some of the things that she has told me have been so devastating that they made me physically ill. As we talked and ate, she told me that she lost her virginity to her stepfather forcing himself on her when she was asleep. I, a grown-ass man, started crying in the middle of the restaurant. She assured me that she was in therapy and was working through her issues.
As time has gone on, more and more details about her past have come up. I am incredibly happy that she is willing to share all of this with me because I want to support her, but there have been so many contradictions that I'm confused. I don't even know how to bring them up. Here are several of the ones that make the least sense:
She told me that her biological father kicked her so hard when she was seven that it broke her wrist in two places. Later when we were taking a bike ride together she said "I've never broken a bone and don't intend to now!"
She told me that her mother used to put a belt, a stick, and a wrench on the table and tell her to choose. She said she picked the wrench because "fuck her that's why." This is a scene from Good Will Hunting, told almost ad verbatim. She has no marks or scars from this.
She told me that after her stepfather abused her for several months, she lived for her grandparents for the rest of high school. Later she contradicted herself and said she was homeless and couch surfing for her last two years of high school.
She told me that she dropped out of high school because she had to escape from a gang who was trying to make her work as a prostitute, but when I met her she was a student at a reputable university. She never went to community college. I don't think it's even possible to get into a school like that with nothing more than a GED.
She told me that to cope with her past trauma, she did almost every drug and was barely sober for more than a week for two years. Later when we smoked weed together, she got SUPER high and said she had never tripped harder. I don't think someone who has done LSD and mushrooms would say that after smoking pot.
It doesn't make sense. I feel like a monster for asking: was she even abused? I could understand one or two contradictions based on some inaccurate memories, but really? Why the movie scene monologue? Why does everything point to her having a privileged upbringing with the brand-new Range Rover she bought as a freshman and fancy college degree with no debt?
I don't know how to bring this up or how to make sense of any of this. I can't bring the issue up because if she *was* abused, it would crush her to be doubted.
TL;DR: my girlfriend has wild stories about her past abuse, but they're making less and less sense every time she talks about them. As much as I don't want to doubt her, they keep escalating and making less sense.
I am a 25 year old female married to a 26 year old male. I do not want kids ever. I do not like them. They are not appealing to me whatsoever and I want to get my tubes tied but in order to do that my doctor has to get my husbands permission but if I wanted to get an abortion I could walk into plan parenthood and get one no questions asked. But when I want to prevent a pregnancy I have to jump through all these hoops in order to do so. What ever happened to having the rights to my own body? My husband doesn’t have to ask for permission to get his balls snipped. I wish there was something I could do to bring more awareness to this or had a platform to make a change but I don’t.
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