For context: My husband and I have been together for 7 years. He has a best friend ‘Liam’ (30) who is married to ‘Eleanor’ (31) and they’ve been together longer than us. I’ve been friends with Eleanor almost as long as I’ve known my husband, I met her through my husband/Liam.
A month ago, my friend called me in tears to tell me she found out her husband was having an affair. She confronted him and he swore he would end things and focus on their marriage.
Two days ago, her and Liam called my husband to ask him to confirm Liam was going to spend the evening with him, my husband said he was. I know he was lying because we had plans that evening so I confronted him about it. He got defensive and said he was only helping his friend out and it wasn’t a big deal because he only needed time alone and that Eleanor was too controlling. We got in an argument and eventually I asked him if he knew Liam had had an affair. He denied it but he’s a bad liar, so I knew he was BSing. I asked him how long he’s been covering for him, but he refused to answer any of my questions. When I told him I was going to let Eleanor know Liam wasn’t going to be with my husband he got really upset and told me I shouldn’t do that. We kept arguing over it and I eventually told him we should cancel our plans and he could really go hang out with Liam since helping him was so important to him.
I ended up moving into the guest room and haven’t really spoken to my husband much since. He keeps telling me he doesn’t understand why I’m so angry since it’s not like he was the one having the affair, but I really can’t look at him the same way.
How do I explain to him why I’m so upset with him? Am I overreacting?
TL;DR – my husband helped his friend cover up his affair, knowing I was friends with his wife. He now doesn’t see why I think it's a big deal.
I have no idea why, but recently a lot of Australian tv shows have found their way to my public tv (Belgium). Most of them are what you would qualify as reality tv. I find them unbearable to watch, since most of them take the toxic element to the extreme.
One show that springs to mind is the one where a number of couples take on a renovation project where each couple gets a different room every week, they must compete yadayadayada. The Flemish version of this has some banter between couples but it's mostly harmless. Usually they pick out one couple to frame as the spoiled/annoying ones but it's kept quite under control. The Australian version is more like a continuous bitch fight with some decoration elements sprinkled on top. You can just see the constant switching of frames, gluing together of images to paint a picture. It's sad to watch.
Last night, we got to see the aussie version of love at first sight (I think it's called?). Flemish version is played out rather cleanly, focused very heavily on the couple itself. You almost don't get to hear any friends or family. I'm not gonna call it high brown tv but it tries to show people with a certain amount of dignity, even if the relationships don't work out.
The aussie version is just.. again with the bitch fights all over the place. They had some scenes where they showed bridal mades gossiping about the bride, telling the other bride (it was a gay couple, the showed made sure to mention this a LOT, and if we didn't believe them they also made sure to show us the two women french kissing for about 10 full seconds because nothing shows how progressive you are as having women make out on camera) how she should be careful, how the bride still talked about their ex, how it was fishy. It just felt so cheap and fake. It added nothing to the new relationship that the show should be about.
I'm not dumb, I know our versions are fake as hell too. All tv is fake as hell. But we tend not to exaggerate with the toxic fucking stuff. I'm not saying everything should be like bake off, but no idea why you guys seem to like the fake confrontation heavy stuff so much. Am I overreacting or are you guys just exporting all your smut and filth over here?
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