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I wasn't sure if it was worth updating such a small post but I'm a frequent lurker on this sub and I know I love all kinds of updates so I figured I'd go ahead. So I spoke to Alex Friday night and I basically just told him I needed him to tell me the truth about what was going on because I wasn't going to keep dealing with him asking me about it every week. I told him I loved him but he knew before we became official that I did not shave/wax my pubic area and I didn't understand why he had become so insistent on it. His response was...predicted by at least one of you.

He said he was actually never "okay" with how I kept my pubic area. He said that every girl he had been with before me was "clean" (his words) and that he decided to put up with hair because he wanted to date me but that truthfully it grossed him out every time he saw it. He also said that his friends "would have never considered dating a woman who didn't take care of herself" (again...his words) but that he wanted to look past the physical since he thought I could be special. I was pretty shocked to say the least since he'd even frequently joke with me about the porn industry's influence on grooming habits. I asked him why he didn't just tell me this as opposed to his ridiculous "most girls do it" argument. He said he just didn't know how to tell me the truth. I asked him if his plan was just to keep asking me until I gave in and he told me "eventually he was going to tell me the truth."

Long story short, I ended things. I know it may seem frivolous or petty to some people but to me it went beyond his preferences for pubic hair. He annoyed me with it for months and stuck to a stupid argument instead of being honest with me. To me, that shows immaturity. He's 25. Not 19. That's not a quality I want in my partner. Oh and also, I'm not sleeping with someone who thinks having pubic hair makes me "gross" and "unclean."

TL;DR: kept the pubes, ditched the man.

Edit: obligatory, didn’t expect this to blow up etc. Thank you to everyone for the super sweet messages! I’m really not an inspiration though, just a gal who’s learning to put her body’s health over her partner’s comfort. To all of y’all telling me I’m gonna die alone because I won’t shave - I like my own company so 🤷🏻‍♀️ that’s fine by me