I read a sentence similar to this on this sub and recalled a conversation with my ex that took place around 2012.

My ex and his colleagues were in a parking lot when they saw a woman walk by. One of my ex's colleagues said, "She's got a body I want to rape." He used the word "rape". I asked my ex if he said anything, confronted his colleague about the statement. He said no, he didn't want to create a rift between him and his colleagues.

I recall another time a male friend of this ex commented how he likes bird watching aka ogling women. I immediately called him out on it, but my ex took his friend's side. In fact, he was so convinced that the bird watching comment was harmless and that I was just "overreacting" and "sensitive" that he brought it up for years. He used this incident to show me for years that I was a "difficult" person.

Why do men stand by and not recognize or stand up to creepy behavior of their male counterparts?